Living in a city like New York makes you question someone's intentions when they approach you. Often times if a guy approaches a girl at a bar, the girl will immediately think he is probably a player who does that sort of thing all the time. Maybe we're just hardened from all of the PETA, Planned Parenthood, Amnesty International, etc who beg us for a minute to chat every where we go. Or it could be the panhandlers who harass us in and out of the subway. 

Either way, the intention of those people is to get something from us. Whether it's sex, money or our time, the thought of someone only approaching us to get something is a turn off. 

I teach clients how to change their intent. Rather than approaching someone with the intention of getting something from them, like their number or a date, your intent should be nothing more than to be interested in who they are and making their day a little brighter. Maybe then New Yorkers wouldn't be so put off by strangers approaching them! I promise that you'll be much closer to getting that number / date if you change your approach. 

Try it out this weekend and let me know how it works for you.



Anna Morgenstern